No One Knows What a Good Retirement Looks Like — Including You (Yet)

Reading Time: 3 minutesThe Model That Doesn’t Exist Nobody tells you this before you retire: the day you stop working, you’ll probably have no idea what you’re actually supposed to do next. Not in a panicked way — just a quiet, unsettling “now what?” that nobody warned you about. Our culture does not provide a single model for …

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Will Great Finances Guarantee a Fulfilling Retirement?

Reading Time: 3 minutesPeople assume that if they’re financially ready, everything else in retirement will fall into place. The dominant retirement narrative says, “Get your finances right, and everything else follows.” It’s baked into every retirement calculator brochure and planning conversation. Money does allow us to buy things that enhance our lives and provide a sense of security. …

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The Hidden Side of Retirement the Ads Never Show

Reading Time: 4 minutesWe often view retirement in unrealistic terms. The myth of retirement is that once you stop working, life will be wonderful all the time. Financial planning ads show retirement as a non-stop luxury vacation — but the reality often doesn’t come close. When Retirement Goes Wrong When I was a shift leader in a sheriff’s …

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Why ‘Just a Few More Years’ Could Cost You Your Retirement

Reading Time: 4 minutesOur financial advisor told us something most advisors won’t say: “You should retire now.” He’d watched too many clients wait past when they could have retired — and then die shortly after they finally did. They never got to enjoy what they’d spent decades working toward. That conversation changed everything for us. We retired at …

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Are You Busy in Retirement — or Actually Living?

Reading Time: 4 minutesThe Busiest Retirees You Know When Mary and John retired, they both immediately jumped into lots of activities. Mary joined a card club that met multiple times a week. She also joined a yoga studio where she attended several classes a week. John went golfing every morning and worked on his classic car several afternoons …

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I Retired to Play Golf Every Day. Then I Got Bored.

Reading Time: 5 minutesWhat George Didn’t Expect (And You Might Not Either) George never imagined that he’d be bored in retirement, but he had to admit that he was. Before he retired, he fantasized about how much he’d enjoy having all that free time. He loved to play golf, but with work and home responsibilities, he never had …

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When You Can’t Afford to Retire

Reading Time: 3 minutesMy wife and I feel very fortunate to have been able to fully retire at age 63. If it hadn’t been for my military pension, we’d still both be working. Unfortunately, it’s clear that many boomers and upcoming Gen Xers will not be financially prepared for retirement. What happens then? The Thing Nobody Talks About …

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Nothing Ages Us Faster Than Idleness

Reading Time: 4 minutes(Note: In this article, I’m going to describe general health advice. I’m not a doctor or a nutritionist. Check with your doctor or nutritionist before beginning a new fitness program.) The Well-Intended Advice That Did Harm When I was a child, we thought of retirement as a time of rest and relaxation. We’d tell our …

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Living With and Without the One You Love

Reading Time: 4 minutesThe Inevitable Question We All Face All of us who have a life partner face the prospect of losing them to death at some point, or them losing us. Retired couples, being older, likely think about this much more than younger couples. The likelihood of losing a partner to death becomes greater the longer you …

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Why Men Struggle More With Retirement Than Women

Reading Time: 5 minutesWhen Retirement Goes Smoothly—for One Spouse Bruce and Mary had looked forward to retirement for years. They both worked in stressful professional jobs and were anxious to leave work and finally have time to travel and enjoy life. Initially, everything went great during the retirement “honeymoon” phase. But then Mary became concerned about Bruce. He …

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